Suggested Reading: An empowering book on living the life you desire

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Check out this keeper of a book that offers solutions for many of your life situations, including dealing with Narcissistic Sociopathic behavior in yourself or others. Despite the title, the book is non-denominational and isn’t about being Christian or any particular religion. The pages are filled with Eternal Truths that are always true, and how knowing and applying those truths can impact your life in amazing ways.

“Divine Messages from Jesus, for a magnificent life”, by Carolyne Cathey, in Kindle and paperback. Available from Amazon.  For a signed copy, contact the author through her blog.

2 thoughts on “Suggested Reading: An empowering book on living the life you desire

    Michael said:
    April 1, 2019 at 7:57 pm

    What do you do when you’re 30 years old and still live at home with your mom who is in her 70s. Dont get me wrong because i work 50 to 60 hours a week making a decent living. The reason for still being at home is due to my brother who is the equal to everything i just read. He is 10 years older than myself. As far back as i can remember he has treated me like trash. Mom as well but he hides it a lot better. And her…. Her only flaw is she is too nice for her own good. May 9th this year will be 2 years since he moved back. Since then he has taken over with no regard to myself let alone her. He calls her by her name. Not mom. Always has. What it boils down to is I feel that im at the end of my rope with another 100 ft to fall. For her sake i stay because i know in my heart. I just know he will look at her like a whisp of cloud. Irrelevant. She would freeze in the winter. I pray many times a day for the continued strength the lord has blessed me with to deal with the situation however as i said i dont know how much more i can take before i snap. Im a very humble layed back and down to earth guy yet i can feel myself on a daily basis moving to the dark side. Do i stay or do i go? To say im torn would be the biggest understatement i can think of.


      truthlover5 responded:
      April 2, 2019 at 3:53 pm

      First, kudos to you for loving your mother so much you’ve willingly set aside your own life to make sure she is protected. However, as you know, your current situation is not sustainable.

      I don’t know about your spiritual beliefs, but you have The Power within you that is the Greatest Power in the Universe. This inner power is called by many names: God, Divine Wisdom, the Creator, the Great Mind… whatever feels comfortable. What I will help you to do is to reconnect with that inner Divine Wisdom that has all of the answers to all of your problems now and during your life. Once you strengthen that connection you will feel more empowered and less like a leaf swept downstream in a storm-swollen river.

      Your mother, unwittingly, is actually contributing to your brother’s damaging behavior by being too nice. Yes, we are to love one another and embody that love, but love also means saying no and standing up for what is right, instead of enabling them. That is harmful to everyone involved, including your brother. That is not love. It is acting from fear.

      I don’t advise or tell you what to do, but I do suggest options and the decisions are up to you.

      If I were in your position, I would contact a trusted family attorney and explain the situation, seeking how best to legally protect your mother and her assets. I would even consider hiring a trustee who is familiar with sociopathic tendencies so that they aren’t conned by the very person they are hired to watch. The trustee could track the finances, perhaps pay the bills, and check up on her to make sure she is not being taken advantage of or abused. I’m not an attorney, but these are the prayer-responses that are coming to me. The reason why this feels comfortable to me is that it takes you out of the middle between your brother and your mom. You are asking a professional to step in, which, if you get the right person/people, it would take a lot of pressure off of you. You will always be her protector because you love her, but you are freeing yourself, if this solution does work out for you. This means you can go on with your life as it is meant to be. Not ignore it, but participate as a son instead of a litigator.

      Now, as to your Inner Guide. You do have the empowering force within you 24/7. According to your beliefs, it might be God, and also a team of angels and spiritual helpers and mentors such as Jesus and the Holy Spirit. You might have spiritual beings you depend upon other than the ones I mentioned, but no matter what name you call them, all are of God. For me, I know without doubt that I am surrounded by and infused with a spiritual team where we work together for the best life possible. This is extremely comforting, knowing you are not and are never alone!

      Here are some additional suggestions:
      1. Pray. One of the strongest prayers is “Help me!” Pray for answers to this problem. Learn to listen for and trust the answers you receive. They might come through as a flashed image, or sound, or a ‘knowing’ or an intuition – a heart urge that bypasses the overanalytical mind. The answers are always positive and encouraging and NEVER encourages you to do harm to another. Then, act on the answers. If you need clarification, ask again. For me, the answers come through so quickly that I at first doubt I even received them, and that are merely my own mind-thoughts. This might take practice, but eventually you will learn to trust the responses.

      2. If after praying this seems to be the right step, then seek out a family attorney, and possibly a designated trustee. Come up with a plan of action that benefits all.

      3. Once that plan, or something, is in place, then consider what you want for you and your life. The situation you are now in is untenable. You are caught in the middle and are too close to the problem to clearly see the right solution, plus you don’t have the influence that an attorney or trustee might have.

      4. Love yourself. This is one of the hardest actions we do. Love yourself as you are loved by the Divine – unconditionally and without judgment. To love yourself anyway, no matter what mistakes you feel you might have made.

      5. Forgive yourself. This, too, can be extremely difficult. As long as you don’t forgive yourself you are anchoring yourself in the middle of the drama instead of getting a larger, more healing perspective. We often feel guilty because we don’t have the solution, or feel we aren’t doing enough. Forgive yourself. You are not meant to do this alone. Get Divine help.

      6. Make all of your decisions from love, not fear. It makes a huge difference. You are doing this because you love your family, and also love yourself. This is what results in a win-win-win for everyone involved.

      I hope this response is helpful for you.

      Please keep in touch with me and let me know how you are doing and how the situation is going. I do care. If you prefer privacy, let me know and we’ll connect through email.

      And, don’t hesitate to get back to me. I, too, am here for you.

      God bless you!


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