What Do You Want – Really? Part 1

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“If you could place an order, like from a menu, knowing it would be brought for you, what would you ask for? What do you want?”

“What do you want, really”, seems an easy question, but it is often one of the most difficult questions we ask ourselves. Especially if our lives are tied up with a sociopath who bans self-thought of what we want for ourselves or our children. Do you feel you aren’t allowed to choose for yourself? That in doing so you will suffer punishment of some kind? So, to be safe and try to maintain peace, or lack of abuse, you merely go along with what the sociopath dictates? For survival, maybe what you want is not to be hit again. But is that what you want – really? These are tough questions when life is tough. But, and this is important, unless you know what you really want, you’ll never get to where you truly want to be.


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The following post is to help you take control of your life by knowing what you want – not an easy answer.    Hope you enjoy the excerpt From the book Divine Messages from Jesus for a magnificent life p.  2015. p. 207-211. Cathey, Carolyne. 

Truth.


Carolyne Cathey writes…

WHAT DO YOU WANT?’

The following are three quotes on this topic from Jesus, my Spiritual Mentor:

Jesus wants me to share these quotes to benefit you:

“What do you want? Partner with the Divine to know what is best for you. Open up to possibilities and true-heart’s-desires you never had the courage to express, or even more, to go for. How can you experience the life you truly want if you don’t know what that is?” ~ Jesus

“Free will is your gift from the Creator. Your power lies in your freedom to choose. No one can take that power from you unless you allow it. Choose well. Choose from your unlimited supply of options and answers provided by the Divine, for you.” ~ Jesus

“In reality, you are choosing continuously. Everything you do is a choice – every thought, every word, every action. The key is to choose well.”

And yet, to choose well, first, know what you want.

Do you see how it all cycles back to knowing what you want? Knowing what you want is crucial. How do you decide what you want? Some of us have a tendency to merely drift – and often to drift along with the current of what others want. Sometimes, through fear or false sense of security, we go for what is expected, or safe, or traditional, or the easy route.

Have you felt challenged in knowing what you really want?

The following is a true story of a Divine Message I (Carolyne) received that I call…

“What Do You Want?”

One day I was driving a winding rural road to attend Sunday Celebration at our local Spiritual Center. While steering around the curves, I conversed with my inner Jesus/Christ/Mentor/guide/friend about my upcoming financial needs for our grandson’s graduation, airline tickets for the children, birthdays, and on and on for all the things I wanted to provide for the people I love.

“What do you want?” the Divine voice interrupted.

After recovering from the surprise of audibly hearing his voice, I thought a minute. “Abundance for the children and grandchildren…”

“That’s for someone else. What do you want?”

“Well, a higher spiritual path….”

“You already have that. What do you want?”

Everything I thought of was to benefit someone else. And every time, he said…

“No, what do you want? Everyone else is being taken care of. What do you want for you?”

I was at a loss to come up with anything specific for me, personally. “That’s really hard!” I responded. I thought for a day and still hadn’t really come up with anything in particular. I asked him, “Would you help me? Would you tell me what I should ask for?”

To my shock, he said…

“No, you must do this on your own. You have gone all through your life letting other people make your decisions for you. People ask you to do something to help them, and you do, and you make it your own. But they were the ones who made the decision for you.

“If you could place an order, like from a menu, knowing it would be brought for you, what would you ask for? What do you want?”

I’ll admit, I was stumped. Later I said, “Maybe the answer is that I don’t need anything.”

“I’m not going to let you get by with that. What do you want? What would you like to do on this earth in this human experience while you are still here to do it? What will you regret if you don’t do it while you’re alive in the physical? While you have the chance? It’s your time!”

Once I dared think of what I wanted, I started writing everything down. I was amazed. For most of the list there was no reason for me not to have them. Some items were small things like flowers, tabletop water fountains, pretty rocks, candles and books, and, and… There were some bigger things too, which is why I suggest you start writing down everything that gives you pleasure, realizing you never choose anything that restricts anyone else’s freedom. This is about you.

The important part is to know what you want!! How can you go for it, or accomplish it, if you don’t even know what that is?

For example, when we were vacationing with the children, those who knew what they wanted to do we made sure we did it – like playing golf, tennis, ocean fishing, horseback riding on the beach, boogie boarding, white water rafting, their favorite restaurants, seeing friends they hadn’t seen for a year… If they hadn’t first made definite choices and verbalized them, their greatest desires wouldn’t have occurred, and we would have spent time on other ‘stuff’ that wasn’t as meaningful to them. Their definite desires determined the schedule, like a road map.

This message is true for you.

My suggestion to you is to start writing down things or experiences that give you joy, make you feel good and express your inner passion. List everything. Then go beneath the surface-wants to what you really want.

For instance, after working on this exercise, I suddenly discovered that what I originally thought I wanted is really only a superficial want, not the core. For example, I originally said I wanted to be able provide abundance for my children and grandchildren. After several months, the realization ‘aha’d that providing for the children/grandchildren wasn’t what I really wanted. What I really wanted was for my children and grandchildren to be independent and responsible for their own abundance. That’s where their true joy would lie. They would be freer and not dependent on me or anyone else.

By the way, when I went back to my list several weeks later, I realized that much of them had already happened, and the others were in progress.

I challenge you to make your own list, and then go deeper with your thinking. Drill down to the real want. Dig so deeply that you unearth long-buried dreams. This moment is the time to unearth them, clean them off, and bring them to the light and fresh air. Give them to God. Prepare for miracles.

So, I ask you what Jesus asked me…

What do you want?

NOTE: Knowing what you truly want might take time. Also, you might benefit from doing this exercise at least once a year because your goals will change, especially after some are completed, and after you gain courage to go more boldly for those dreams.


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EXERCISES for ‘What do you Really Want?’

Don’t worry about any kind of conenction or pattern. Don’t take into consideration whether or not you feel it is possible or realistic. Put fear away. It doesn’t belong here in this exercise. Merely write what comes to you.

But First: What is the most important action for you to take before doing these exercises? Ask for Divine Guidance. Then listen. Ignore fear and open your mind and heart to the intuition, the messages.

We are going to approach what might be your wants from several different angles, so if some of it seems repetitive, it’s for a reason.

 REMEMBER, this is your chance. It’s your time!

NOTE: YOU DO NOT NEED TO KNOW THE HOW!

YOU ARE ONLY TO DETERMINE THE WHAT. The DIVINE SUPPLIES THE HOW.

  • WRITE DOWN WHAT YOU ENJOY, what gives you pleasure, big or small.
  • WHAT ARE YOUR PASSIONS? What really matters to you? This is a huge clue for you, put within you by the Divine. Listen to those clues. What are your passions?
  • WHAT IS YOUR HEART IS URGING YOU TO DO, or is tugging you in a certain direction that you would LOVE as a result for your life if you had more faith and knew it would turn out well?

Dig beneath the surface or superficial wants to the real wants.

  • WHAT DREAMS ARE LONG-BURIED you might want to unearth?
  • What would you like to do on this earth in this human experience while you are still here to do it?
  • If you were at the end of your life looking backwards, what would you regret not having the courage to do?
  • If you could pick anything for you and your life that you consider a dream existence, what would that look like?

Read through your answers, share some of them if you want.

  • What are the similarities?
  • Is anything missing?
  • Is there a pattern in what you wrote?
  • Did your working on this open up any ‘aha!’s’ for you?
  • Did something come to mind that is an inspiration for you to follow?
  • Circle the ones that are most important to you – a starting place.

HOW MIGHT YOU BE GETTING IN YOUR OWN WAY IN FOLLOWING THROUGH ON the WANTS you just listed?

  • FEAR – how many ways does that fear come through?

NOTE: YOU DO NOT NEED TO KNOW THE HOW!

YOU ARE ONLY TO DETERMINE THE WHAT. The DIVINE SUPPLIES THE HOW.

 Final question: Has this exercise been helpful?

“What do you want? Partner with the Divine to know what is best for you. Open up to possibilities and true-heart’s-desires you never had the courage to express, or even more, to go for. How can you experience the life you truly want if you don’t know what that is?” ~ Jesus

I suggest you take these comments and go inward, ask for Divine help and guidance. Give loving thought to your wants. They will determine your life. Don’t worry about the how. Trust. Have faith. Trust.

REMEMBER, this is your chance. NOW is your time!



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