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The Beatitudes reveal powerful meanings that are rarely understood. This deeper understanding can help you reclaim your inner power.

With permission of Carolyne Cathey, author, inspirational speaker and spiritual counselor. From her talk on “The Joy of the Beatitudes”. (Right sidebar audio player).

5:6 #4 Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they shall be satisfied.

The hunger which this beatitude describes is no genteel hunger. It is the hunger of the person who is starving for food, and the thirst of one who will die unless they drink.

There is one further point which only emerges in the Greek. It could have said I want some of the bread, but not the whole loaf. I want some of the water, but not the entire container. The wording Jesus used means I want the whole loaf of bread. I want the entire container of water. I want it all.

I really struggled for days with the research on this beatitude because whatever I found, Jesus told me through prayer was inadequate for what he really said. That it lacked the total truth and the power of this message. So finally after several days, and still being told I was missing something important, I was guided to do an automatic writing exercise where I pray, ask the question, and then write whatever comes through to me.

This is what I received:

Write what I tell you. Write of love. Write of longing for a right relationship with God. A loving relationship. A powerful relationship. That the only way we can be right with God is to surrender to God’s will, and allow God to direct our relationship. A right relationship with God is not from us directing the way, but God doing the Divine will through us, empowering us, empowering others. That is a right relationship with God.

I asked if there is anything else?  He said,

It’s our hearts. The longing in our hearts. We have to really want a right relationship with God, not to be afraid of it, but to embrace it. Not a tepid desire, but an all or nothing quest, knowing that this is where lies our bliss and we won’t’ settle for anything less than the highest and best. He said talk about the Truth. The burning Truth. The purifying truth. A truth that challenges us to dare to live as God would have us live. How much, how badly do we want a right relationship with God? A loving relationship? A powerful relationship? An all-time 24/7 relationship, not just when we don’t have anything better to do. All or nothing.

What I finally realized:

It’s not that we must have goodness so that we can connect with God, it’s that we connect with God so that we can have goodness. God is our source for goodness. If we want all from God, then we must first surrender and give our all to God.

Wow. That really is a challenge. Like Jesus shared during the prayer message, there is only one way we can accomplish this directive, and it is with…

Surrender, for only through surrender do we have the total access to and fulfillment of goodness and right relationship with God for which we hunger. Do you sense the surrender pattern Jesus is teaching us in the first half of the beatitudes? When you really think about it, Surrender is the answer to everything. Surrender is the answer.

So…

O the godlike joy when we hunger and thirst for a right relationship with God as the highest priority in our lives because we want all that God offers. In our heart-longing desperation we surrender everything we are and do to the Divine, allowing the loving, purifying and powerful goodness to so fill us to overflowing that we can’t but live and share that goodness all of the time – God’s will flowing through us. Through surrender we are satisfied. This is joy


Research Sources:

William Barclay’s Commentary on The Gospel of Matthew

The Hidden Gospel by Neil Douglas-Klotz

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The Beatitudes reveal powerful meanings that are rarely understood. This deeper understanding can help you reclaim your inner power.

With permission of Carolyne Cathey, author, inspirational speaker and spiritual counselor. From her talk on “The Joy of the Beatitudes”. (Right sidebar audio player).

 5:5 #3 Blessed are the meek, for they shall inherit the earth.

Meek doesn’t mean weak, wimpy, shyly cowering in silence. In Aramaic, the word translated as “meek” means literally those who have softened what is rigid inside. That means when we are rigid about our thinking we are not open to any other viewpoint, even God’s. In our rigidity, we block ourselves from receiving and experiencing the Real Truth, the Eternal Truth. When we soften inside, we become teachable.

Restated:

Oh the god-like joy when we soften what is rigid inside and become teachable by the Divine, opening to and accepting the Eternal Truth, freeing us to experience the highest and best physical life possible while on planet earth. This is joy.

Research Sources:

William Barclay’s Commentary on The Gospel of Matthew

The Hidden Gospel by Neil Douglas-Klotz

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Powerful Life-Changing Beatitudes -#2: Blessed are those who mourn…

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The Beatitudes reveal powerful meanings that are rarely understood. This deeper understanding can change your life whether you are living with or know a narcissistic sociopath, or are one. Read below to see why.

With permission of Carolyne Cathey, author, inspirational speaker and spiritual counselor. From her talk on “The Joy of the Beatitudes”. (Right sidebar audio player).

5:4 #2 Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.

The specific Greek word for ‘to mourn’ used originally, is the strongest word for mourning in the Greek language. It is the word which is used for mourning for the dead, for the passionate lament for one who was loved.

For what do we mourn as if it were a type of death? When we are spiritually destitute and finally surrender all to our Source, we realize what a mess we’ve made of our lives. We mourn for our regrets, our mistakes, things we said or did wrong, perhaps hurting ourselves, or others. Words and actions we wish we could retract but we can’t, regrets that tear us up inside. We mourn that, in our ignorance, we blunder our way through life, too often missing out on what might have been our bliss if we’d seen or understood more clearly. It is when we look back on our lives at the moment of death and regret what we didn’t have the courage to go for and that it is now too late.

So, paraphrased:

Oh the God-like joy when we finally admit and mourn for our mistakes, for the shambles we made of our lives, because we are comforted by the realization that, mistakes and all, we are loved by God anyway, unconditionally, without judgment, which is precisely how we are to love ourselves, and others. There is no greater comfort than this. To be loved anyway. This is joy.

Research Sources:

William Barclay’s Commentary on The Gospel of Matthew

The Hidden Gospel by Neil Douglas-Klotz

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Powerful Life-Changing Beatitudes -#1: Blessed are the poor in spirit.

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The Beatitudes reveal powerful meanings that are rarely understood. This deeper understanding can change your life whether you are living with or know a narcissistic sociopath, or are one. Read below to see why.

With permission of Carolyne Cathey, author, inspirational speaker and spiritual counselor. From her talk on “The Joy of the Beatitudes”.

The 8 Beatitudes, or blessings, or the be-attitudes, are the core of the core teachings Jesus came here to share.

What we often don’t realize is the power within the statements. To many of us they have become meaningless. So often when we read through the Beatitudes we skim over them without any realization of the power and depth of their meaning. For one, our lifestyle is so very different, and for another, many of the words either had no accurate translation in the English language, or often the meanings don’t make sense any more, or they come across ho-hum, or they’ve actually come to mean the opposite of the original language.

First, the phrase “blessed are,” when the original Greek word is translated accurately, it means “Oh, the godlike joy of…” The reason that is important is because they are not just wishes of what might be; they are not hopes for future blessings; they are celebrations of what exists right now, at this moment. They are exultant shouts of joy for the Divine blessings that nothing in this physical world can ever take away from us.

5:3 #1 Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.

Poor in spirit, (not financially, but in spirit). The original meaning for poor spoken at the time describes absolute and abject poverty. it describes the poverty which is beaten to its knees, someone who is absolutely destitute.  Why is that something to celebrate? Because it celebrates the person who is so spiritually destitute they realize their own utter lack of resources to meet life, and with nowhere else to turn, put their whole trust in God.  It means surrender, the most significant choice we make. Surrender isn’t only about giving, it is mainly about receiving. We are to empty ourselves in surrender so that total love and Truth and guidance can flood into us and fill us to overflowing without restriction. That is when we truly celebrate the fullness of life that is ours to experience from that inner kingdom of heaven that is within us. Not from anything outside of us, but Inside of us always. That is freedom. That is true joy. To personalize this proclamation of triumph.

Oh, the godlike joy when we feel so spiritually destitute that we finally surrender our lives to God, putting all of our trust in our indwelling Unlimited Supplier, not a human.  This is joy!

Research Sources:

William Barclay’s Commentary on The Gospel of Matthew

The Hidden Gospel by Neil Douglas-Klotz

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What Do You Want – Really? Part 2: Turning Your Wants Into Goals

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If you did the suggested work in Part One of What Do You Want – Really? then you made at least a partial list of items or situations you really want to come true – the deep-down wants beyond the superficial wants. If you haven’t yet made even a partial list, then please reread What Do You Want – Really? 

Why? Because unless you know what you want – really, then you won’t accomplish what you truly desire – even if it is merely to survive. But go for more than survival. This is your life! There are miracles waiting for you once you know what you want most desperately, and how to bring that desperate desire into reality, which will be in Part 3, Turning Your Goals Into Realities. 

But for now we’re talking about turning those wants into goals.

As I mentioned in Part 1, the question of what you really want seems like it would be easy to answer, but it is often one of the most difficult questions we ask ourselves. Especially if our lives are tied up with a sociopath who bans self-thought of what we want for ourselves or our children. You might feel you aren’t allowed to choose for yourself, that in doing so you will suffer punishment for daring to do so. Which means, often, to be safe and to try to maintain peace, or lack of abuse, you merely go along with what the sociopath dictates. For survival, maybe what you want is not to be hit again. But is that what you want – really? These are tough questions when life is tough. But, and this is important, unless you know what you really want, you’ll never get to where you truly want to be.

At this moment in time, the challenge is to now take that list of wants and turn them into goals.

What is the difference?

  • Wants means to merely wish for something to happen.
  • Goals are focused targets where you’ve made a commitment. Commitment is necessary in following through with what you feel you’re Divinely guided to do. Folliwng through means the steps you take in order to bring those goals into reality, which will be in Part 3, Turning Your Goals Into Realities. 

FROM TRUTH: IMPORTANT! If what you want is to stop the abuse, click on the link: Stop the Abuse


Let’s assume you’ve made a list – even if it is only in your head so that someone else doesn’t see it and lash out at you. Your list will depend on where you are in life, your situation, your unhappiness with where you are, and what you feel is important to do to improve your situation. 

For example: If you are, unfortunately, linked in some capacity with a sociopathic personality, then merely wanting to survive the abuse seems like all you might be able to accomplish. But let’s go beyond that situation. 

If you could do anything without recourse, what would you like your life to look like? Peaceful? Happy? Free? Living without fear?  Think deeply about this question. Your life might depend on it.

If you don’t like your situation, then how might you want to change it? If you naively believe that your love will change that sociopath, then think again. They don’t think like you do. They have a different agenda. They might plead and beg and say how sorry they are and that it will never happen again, but it will. In fact, the longer you tolerate abuse, the worse it will grow because you are encouraging their bad behavior. At that point, you are becoming part of the problem. 

Think about yourself, and your children if you have any. Don’t let them grow up knowing and experiencing abuse. They will either become the abuser, or the recipient of abuse. You are their example. Be a good one!

Going back to our potential example:

  • First, you want – really – to get out of your toxic situation – safely! You should never allow anyone to abuse you or bully you either physically or emotionally. As I said before, if you allow it, you are part of the problem. How do you do that?
    •  See Link: How to Stop the Abuse. There are links there you can contact for help. There is legal advice, financial assistance, places you can go, and more.

NOTE: Ties to family and friends might have been cut by the abuser/controller. Usually that is a mirage and your friends and family care very much about what happens to you but have lost a means of contact. With that said:

      1.  Family and/or Friends: it depends on your family and friends whether they are supportive of your getting away, or don’t believe you have a problem and tell you to stay, or, you made the original choice, now live with it. Wrong! No one is so perfect as to know everything about everyone, and sometimes we, in good faith, get sucked into a bad situation.  You might realize that if your family can help you, and you are in a dangerous relationship, that you will most likely need to find an unexpected location for you, and children if you have them. But think of the freedom! Of living without fear!
      2.  Church: Again, it depends on the church pastor. They might be understanding and helpful, or they might tell you that you would be sinful to try to leave and to start life over. If they are the understanding type, they will probably have suggestions on how to help you. 
      3. Police/Sheriff: Yet again, it depends on the person and their laws as to what they can do. As long as your abuser/controller isn’t connected with the police/sheriff, you might be all right going to them for help and/or advice. They might not be able to do anything unless the person is caught in the act of abuse, but you can at least ask.  
      4. Local nonprofits who are there to help you in your situation.
  • Second, starting over. Begin thinking about the urgings of your heart. Unearth those long-buried dreams. Those are God-seeds planted within your heart that will bring you the greatest joy. True, you might have to do something short-term to bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be, but remember, it doesn’t matter what you do, as long as you do what you do with love – from being a janitor, or waiting tables, or being President. Do it with love. All are noble occupations and equally important. No person is more important than any other because we are all God-creations, created by the same God from the same God-stuff. Pray, ask God for help. 

In the above potential example, you’ve gone from Wishing, to Commitment. You’ve moved from Wants, to Goals. Something on which you can focus and work.

Perhaps your wants aren’t as extreme as the potential example, but you get the idea. 

For another example: Your want might be to be wealthy. But what do you really want? What the wealth might provide? Security? Travel? A home? Joy? Happiness? Merely having wealth doesn’t guarantee any of those outcomes. Perhaps you want fame? Why? To feel you are noticed and important? Or, to the other side, that you have a skill or talent you would love to share with the world so as to help people. Just being famous doesn’t mean you are happy and fulfilled. You don’t need to be famous to matter. You matter now. You are important now. Go beyond the superficial wants to the life-enriching goals that really matter, that really make a difference. This is your life. With God’s help and guidance, you can make it the most rewarding and fulfilling life possible. 

Keep working on your list. Move your wants to goals, tangibles where you will focus your energy and effort. Do feel something positive stirring within your heart? Do you feel hope? If so, you are amazing to get to this point. It takes courage, AND FAITH. 

ALWAYS PRAY AND ASK FOR HELP. Then listen for the answers or be aware of subtle changes in your life. 

EXPECT A MIRACLE.

 

REMEMBER: You do not have to know the HOW, only the WHAT. The Divine takes care of the how. In fact, the Divine is with you through everything – the entire process – as a co-creator of which goals are best for you, your belief in and trust that the goals are already yours, along with the Divine Implementer carrying out the how to a successful result – thought into form, cause into effect.



FROM TRUTH: IMPORTANT! If what you want is to stop the abuse, click on the link: Stop the Abuse


Next: Part 3, Turning Your Goals Into Realities. 

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Politics! How do I Love Those Who…?

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Although the following post is suggestions on threading your way safely and lovingly through political situations, the information is also relevant to dealing with any challenging personality. Hope you enjoy the excerpt From the book Divine Messages from Jesus for a magnificent life p. 181-186. 2015. Cathey, Carolyne. 

Truth.


Carolyne Cathey writes…

POLITICS MAKES ENEMIES out of friends. Why is that? Do you ever wonder how two wonderful people can look at and listen to the same incident and yet have opposite reactions? Anyone who follows the news media, and your friends, or your former friends, knows this is true. I’ll wonder, did we even watch the same event? How is it possible that we look at these issues from such conflicting viewpoints?

Another puzzle is that the people, candidates, TV news panels, newspapers and political supporters often practice the same behavior they claim they hate. They become what they dislike. They talk love while calling their opponents hateful names. They talk togetherness while spouting divisive accusations. They yell that if they don’t get their way, they promise to be a wounding thorn in the democratic process no matter who gets hurt, instead of being part of a healing collaboration. I’m not talking about a particular party or candidate. I’m talking about what happens when someone wants to win so badly that they’ll do anything to win—even behaving in ways they claim they strongly disapprove of in other people.

Calm discussion is rarely possible in these instances. Far too often, friendships are ended merely because their friends have differing thoughts and ideas.

Divine Conversation about Politics

Like you are encouraged to do, I took my concerns to Jesus who very patiently listened while I ranted and raved about what I thought were the overwhelming injustices in the world, finally working my way to—

“Politics!” I yelled within my mind. “How do I respond when beliefs are so very different? How do I react when I feel that all I hear are lies, that what they say is only what they want me to believe is the truth, but isn’t, and they know it isn’t the truth, but it helps them to get what they want, which is power and control. They spread those horrible lies in order to further their agenda, then people who believe them act out as if the lies are true, hurting themselves, others, our country and world with long-lasting affects. I feel manipulated, like a sucker being played. How do I—”

“With love” Jesus said. “Love is all that matters. That means you don’t respond with attacks or hatred and negativity. Respond with love, with the real eternal truth and the God qualities of love, light, joy, harmony, beauty, and peace.

“People’s actions reveal what is in their hearts. When it is negative, it is a result of some kind of fear. Look at your thoughts and actions. That is what is inside of you, taking up valuable space, pushing out love. What you send out is what you choose to receive in return. If you send out hatred (a form of fear), you receive hatred. Choose to send out love, not fear.

“That doesn’t mean politicians {or abusers} or the press or their followers are allowed to do whatever they want. To let them get by with lies and greed and harming others means you are enabling their behavior. You become part of the problem, not the solution.

“Be smart. Be wise. Look beyond the platitudes and the smooth lies. The challenge is in knowing the truth beyond the perceptions. Don’t depend on a prejudiced press or supporters for the truth. Don’t believe everything you hear or read. Research truthful sources. Ask me for help in knowing the truth. Trust in me.”

I asked how you love the people you’re propagandized to fear?

“With love. I know I say that with every answer, but that is because love is what matters. What does that mean?

“It means react and choose from love, not fear. It means pray for those for whom you feel anger and fear. Image them with God’s light around them, filling them with truth and all of the God’s qualities. It means sending your love to them. It means to send healing thoughts and prayers to fill them, surround them, and everyone around them, and to the country, and to the planet. It means to contribute in a positive way.

“It means that, from love, you say no to anyone who, out of fear—which includes ego—rages and destroys and seeks to hurt and harm. That is not love. Seek healing, not revenge. Be part of the improvement, not the destruction. Do unto others as you wish them to do unto you.

“When people act out their rage, it means that, in their fright, they are frantically looking outside themselves for their happiness and fulfillment. The Inner Divine is your Unlimited Supplier for your happiness, not from anything outside yourself.

“Love originates from your Source of Love filling you continuously. Remove any hatred or fear that is blocking Divine love so that love fills you to overflowing. First, love yourself, without judgment and with compassion. Then you can love others as you love yourself.

“Remember, you are not your experiences. You are not a label. You are not the drama playing out around you. You are not supplied by those making the promises.

“You are an eternal spirit beyond all of the illusions in the world, including politics. You are one with the Greatest Power in the Universe.

“Ask for Divine guidance at all times. I am with you always. We are a team. Together we make a loving difference. Be part of the solution. Allow me to send love, through you.”

Meaning: This is a volatile subject and stirs passionate reactions.

But, as you notice in the quotes and throughout this book, love is always the answer. As Jesus said earlier, the challenge is in knowing the truth beyond the perceptions. Only Divine guidance knows the real truth.

Here are my personal concerns that I’ve turned over to Jesus:

Tolerance, or the lack of. My concern is that we’ve become an intolerant society, replaced by hatred and judgment. According to the Miriam-Webster Dictionary, tolerance is “a willingness to accept feelings, habits, or beliefs that are different from your own.”

Truth is often buried beneath the ‘agenda-spin’. What is sad is when anger and rage mistakenly stem from lies that people believe with all their hearts are the truth, but are really distortions that a press or candidates have claimed is true but are spun into lies so they could win. When that happens, everyone is hurt. Don’t get caught in the lie-trap.

Integrity is another loss. Honesty is fading in importance. Sadly, ‘getting by’ with something is often considered a joke and something to admire.

How are tolerance, truth and integrity undermined?

Fear. Fear is used to control. Fear and control are prevalent in politics, advertising, churches, companies, and families. You’re warned that if you don’t vote for their candidate, buy their product, practice their religion, that horrible results will happen to you—and the planet.

Think about the list: Hate, anger, fear, control, intolerance, lies—everything that is the opposite of the God qualities, which are love, truth, beauty, peace, harmony, and joy.

The truth is, God loves unconditionally. God is love. You are love. Be loving in all situations. Be love. There are no exceptions.

Choose the God-qualities that result in a blessed life for you. No matter what is going on around you,

Choose God. Choose Love.


“You are to repeat and repeat until all know without doubt, you are one with your Source, and the Source is your Unlimited Supplier, not a human.

“Which means that you are to turn to the Source for all things. And…”

“Once you ‘get Oneness’, everything else falls in place.” ~ Jesus

Divine Messages from Jesus for a magnificent life. Jesus.p.186. 2015. Cathey, Carolyne.



Love Doesn’t Mean Condoning Behavior

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The following is an interesting post on how to love challenging people without being an enabler. Hope you enjoy the excerpt From the book Divine Messages from Jesus for a magnificent life p. 177-179. 2015. Cathey, Carolyne. 

Truth.


ALL ARE CHILDREN of God, created by God, but that doesn’t mean you ignore behavior that is not loving. You are to know the truth about everyone in that they are eternal spirits who are created by the Source from the same love that is God.

Jesus said:

“The challenge is that many people don’t know the truth of who they are and, out of ignorance and fear, make ego-based decisions rather than love-based. Ego-based and fear-based are the same.

“How do you react and respond? No matter what, you see the truth of who they are even though they don’t know it for themselves—eternal spirits created by love. You reject anything that is not an embodiment of their truth. If they lie and manipulate and connive and try to destroy, you say no to that behavior. To accept without question the negativity emanating from them means you are enabling their behavior, encouraging their misperceptions.

“Love of yourself means you do not allow others to treat you with less than the love and respect you deserve as a child of God. Self-love means only allowing loving behavior from yourself as well as from others.

“Self-sacrifice might appear noble but when enacted without self-love you weaken yourself and those around you.

“What unhealthy self-sacrifice means is if you continually give self-sacrificially to the point that others become dependent on you. The result is that they aren’t developing their own strength and realizing their own truth. What you might believe is helpful, might, in reality, harm. In actuality, unhealthy self-sacrifice, when searched below the surface, can be ego-based—acting so as to feel needed, superior, which is harmful to everyone involved.

“That doesn’t mean you don’t help people.

“If your heart and Divine Guide tell you it is the right thing to do to help a particular person or situation, then you do it according to God’s direction. If you are Divinely urged to help someone into an improved situation that will empower them and help them gain their independence, freedom, self-worth and the truth of who they are, then of course you are to help. And of course you always show love and compassion. But if you want successful results, don’t attempt the impossible by thinking you are stepping away from God to do it. You do all things through God and with God’s inner-led direction.

“You are urged to see the truth of everyone, saying no to everything that isn’t the truth.”


“Love of yourself means you do not allow others to treat you with less than the love and respect you deserve as a child of God. Self-love means only allowing loving behavior from yourself as well as from others.” ~ Jesus

Divine Messages from Jesus for a magnificent life p. 177-179. 2015. Cathey, Carolyne.


 


How to React With Unloving People

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The following is an interesting post on how to react with people who are difficult to love, perhaps even abusive. Hope you enjoy the excerpt From the book Divine Messages from Jesus for a magnificent life p. 171-175. 2015. Cathey, Carolyne. 

Truth.


I’VE BEEN ASKING Jesus questions on dealing with negative personalities and how to be loving and peaceful when all I feel is anger and fear.

“With love,” Jesus said.

“That’s hard,” I said. “This person I’m talking about is hard to love. He’s strange, creepy, unsettling, controlling, manipulative. How do I be like you in respect to someone like that, or, a person who can be charming one moment, then in the next moment their personality flips to the opposite? For some reason, I feel as if it is somehow my fault, that I did something wrong to set them off.”

“Focus on me,” Jesus said. “God loves everyone equally. But don’t accept anything less than the truth from people, situations or yourself. The truth is all that matters. That is why you are to focus on me. I know the truth. Then you are to live your truth, always.”

I said, “But, the other person is not expressing truth. Please tell me, reveal to me, show me, how I’m supposed to feel and react to one of God’s own who is still trying to manipulate me into meeting them in remote places, is frightening me, even using my loved ones as bait. And yes, I do feel tense in relation to this person, but mainly because I don’t know how to be like you in this situation.”

“Do you trust me?”

“Absolutely,” I said.

“That is all you need to know. Trust in me. Focus on me. Allow me to work through you, to guide you. I will tell you what to do and when. The guidance will vary from person to person and situation to situation, which is why it is vital for your own happiness to keep our continual communication channel open at all times. That’s all you need to know. Trust, and allow.

“However, for this particular person whose intention is to control and manipulate you through lies and guilt, and for anyone who might be dangerous, this is what you are to do.

“First, no contact. Cut off all contact with that person —no more phone calls, no meeting them anywhere, no feeling guilty and going by to see them because they claim they have changed. No contact.”

I said, “Cutting off all contact is hard. I feel as if I’m abandoning them when I should be helping them. Isn’t that what we are supposed to do? Help others?

Jesus said:

“It depends on the person and the situation. Look at it this way. If, by your words and actions, you continue to encourage anyone who is trying to control or manipulate you into doing what they want instead of what is right for you, or anyone who is causing you emotional or physical stress or harm, then you are, in reality, part of the problem because you are aiding their behavior. Don’t do that. You are not helping that person to heal. You are entrenching their behavior. You’re making it worse.

“Second, it is not your responsibility to ‘fix’ this person, or any person. You are relieved of that burden. They are responsible for their own actions. Only they can make the choice to change themselves.”

Confused, I asked, “Then I am to abandon them to their own damaging personality?”

Jesus said:

“How can you abandon what isn’t yours to ‘fix’. Trust in me. I am lovingly working with this person whom I equally love, but because of free will, until they allow me to guide them, I remain available, waiting for them to ask me for help. At this point, they say they don’t believe in God. Even so, I continue to work with them through other methods, knowing they can instantly choose a better way.

“Third, love yourself. The only person you can control is yourself. By loving yourself that means you have the right to say ‘no’ to anyone who isn’t acting in your own best interest.

“Loving yourself isn’t narcissistic, which isn’t really love but a form of fear. It is about nurturing yourself, being aware of the positive and negative energy vibrations around you, accepting what is good, rejecting what is not, being selective to what is best and most loving for you. That includes the food you eat and your lifestyle. This is your responsibility. To, first, love yourself. And to trust in me.”

I felt as if a huge burden lifted from my heart. “This,” I thought, “I can do. To love myself and let Jesus guide me as to what is the right action for me. I matter.”

Meaning: We’re taught all through life that we can, or should, ‘fix’ people. Many people choose partners and go into relationships and marriages with the idea of changing the person into their idea of what they should be. That is a false basis for any relationship.

The only person for whom you are responsible (not including children), is yourself. Even the child makes their own choices, but the parent, family and adult friends are meant to act on God’s behalf to lead the child into healthy, loving choices so that they develop their own inner Divine connection with their Source.

Turn to your Divine Guide. Your spiritual mentor has the perfect answers and solutions for every situation you face. Those answers will vary according to each event. Trust. Have faith. Listen. Follow. In other words—

Trust and Obey.

By the way, obeying your Divine Guide means you are following the advice you receive. Smart.


“Loving yourself isn’t narcissistic, which isn’t really love but a form of fear. It is about nurturing yourself, being aware of the positive and negative energy vibrations around you, accepting what is good, rejecting what is not, and being selective to what is best and most loving for you. That includes the food you eat and your lifestyle. This is your responsibility. To, first, love yourself. And to trust in me.” ~ Jesus

Divine Messages from Jesus for a magnificent life p. 171-175. 2015. Cathey, Carolyne.


Healing Guilt, Shame and Regret, Part 8: The surprising secret to forgiveness.

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THE SECRET TO LETTING GO?

LOVING YOUR PAST!

I know. Loving Your Past as the secret to forgiveness sounds bizarre. Impossible. Weird. But stay with me here. I’ve tried this. It works. Read through the information from the book, “Divine Messages from Jesus” by Carolyne Cathey, p. 351-354.

Give the following suggestions a try for yourself. Then, feel free to comment below on if or how this information helps you. Did it free you somewhat from the enslavement of your unforgiveness? I’m curious to know if your result was as positive as mine.

I don’t know yet if you’ve read her insightful book, but this chapter on forgiveness starts with… 

Jesus (Cathey’s Spiritual mentor), explains how to forgive by loving your past.

“Listen carefully,” he said. “There is a secret to letting go of the regrets and it will sound the opposite of what you expect. Your supposed failure is because what you’ve been attempting is from the mind, not the heart. Remember how I’ve said that love is all that matters? What people often don’t realize, is that statement is true even of the past. What most do when trying to heal the past is try to forget it, to block it out, which is mental, when what is most healing is to work from the heart and embrace the past —to love it, love everything about you— including your past.

“Start this moment with healing and letting go of the past as you remember it and is no longer serving you. Without unforgiveness, your past is an anchor chaining you from taking flight into all that is your full potential.

“As you remember it’ means that many, when they look at their past, mainly see and feel their regrets, guilt, anger, and even self-loathing for what they feel they should have done better—all of the should haves and why didn’t I’s. Sometimes you see yourselves as victims mired in pain and anger that you have difficulty releasing. Believing you are a victim is disempowering and conflicting—guilt that you didn’t somehow prevent it from happening, and yet continually giving someone else power over your life because you refuse to release it.

“What you don’t see is the glory in your past. You forget that you did what you believed was the right choice at the time, and there is glory in that. Those experiences are part of learning and growth.

If you never made mistakes that would be the greatest mistake of all because, for one, that isn’t possible when in the physical, and for two, you wouldn’t have been taking the risks necessary for growth and development—you would have learned judgment and arrogance instead of understanding and compassion.”

Then he reveals about the gift inside the pain.

“Mostly what no one recognizes is the gift inside even the sad and angry and painful moments. There is always a gift. Always, even though you might not recognize it for the blessing it is. Recognizing those gifts, those treasures, despite the awfulness of the memories, is the key to releasing the pain so that you can truly love yourself for the wonderful being you are.”

Then he adds the challenge:

“This moment is the perfect time for you to dig out those past moments and send love to all of the negative memories and regrets and guilt. Discover the pearls within that are formed from the friction. Those pearls are yours to claim. Love those moments and accept them for what they are—life’s lessons—and love them as part of the treasure of who you are right now.

“Love and congratulate yourself for daring to live. Love is compassionate, so be compassionate. Love heals. And remember, you are not in this alone. Go inward and ask for help in the healing. Ask to see your past through God’s eyes, through the lens of love.”

Meaning: Unforgiveness is hurting you, not the perpetrators. As difficult a challenge as it might seem, love yourself by forgiving yourself first, then work on forgiving others, remembering that you are doing this for you. Vital to your success is asking for Divine help in forgiving yourself, and others.

Remember the quote:

What most do when trying to heal the past is try to forget it, to block it out, which is mental, when what is most healing is to work from the heart and embrace the past —to love it.” ~ Jesus

Excerpt from Divine Messages from Jesus for a magnificent life, p, 351-354. Cathey, Carolyne. 2015

(To be continued)

Part 9: Going from Forgiveness to Gratitude


Previous Posts: Healing Guilt, Shame and Regret

Healing Guilt, Shame and Regret, Part 1

Part 2: Important Differences

Part 3: Me Worthy? But my mistakes!

Part 4: Permission to Feel

Part 5: How do I forgive when I’m still hurt and angry?

Part 6: When you don’t forgive, who is hurt?

Part 7 : Consider: When you don’t forgive, who or what controls you?


Healing Guilt, Shame and Regret, Part 7: Consider: When you don’t forgive, who or what controls you?

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We ended Part 6 with, if you don’t forgive, even when the one abusing you is a charming sociopath, who, or what, controls you?

On the home page there are descriptions of the emotionless but superficially charming   sociopathic personality that causes great harm. Perhaps you’ve been caught in and confused by their games of control and manipulation. If so…

Consider: The charming sociopath is like a parasite. Because they don’t feel emotions, they have to continually feed off of other people’s emotions. They always  have to have a victim. They are dependent on others outside of themselves. That is their weak link. Are you allowing yourself to be their victim? You have a choice. It might be a risky, dangerous choice, but you still have a choice. Get help.

Consider:  Is there any reason not to choose a better life for you? The NS will never feel real emotions, only fake ones to control you and make you feel guilty.

Choose freedom. Choose healing. Go after what is best for your life. All things are possible with God, so don’t try to do this alone, in fact it’s impossible. Ask for Divine guidance, knowing that the way will be shown to you. Even if your unforgiveness is unrelated to a NS…

Consider: What do you want for YOU? Continual bondage with the reminders and memories fueling the unforgiveness? Or freedom? Do you choose to hold the chains of unforgiveness for the rest of your life? Chains that shackle you to the act, to the perpetrator? If not, then maybe now is the time to let go and reclaim your power and control. Forgiveness doesn’t mean you’ll forget, but it means it no longer negatively impacts you and your decisions.

FORGIVENESS MEANS FREEDOM. RECLAIM YOUR POWER!

This is all about you. LET GO!

Remember:

“When you don’t forgive, you are willfully giving someone else control over you, chaining you to the very nightmare you long to forget, dominating you through negative emotions that are continually impacting your thoughts, fears, health, relationships and life.

“This is because you mistakenly believe that outside forces control you, when in reality it’s the forces inside of you that affect you. I am inside of you. God is inside of you. There is no greater power. This power gives you freedom from bondage to whatever you believe is injustice. But first you must forgive, others and yourself, because forgiveness breaks the chains of domination, releasing the inner power, releasing you belongs—with you.” ~Jesus

FORGIVENESS IS POWER

If you are finally ready to let go,  but aren’t having any success in doing so, be sure to read Post 8: The surprising secret to forgiveness.

Excerpts from Divine Messages from Jesus for a magnificent life, p, 339-343. Cathey, Carolyne. 2015

Quote and Image from Divine Messages from Jesus for a magnificent life, p. 347-349. 2015. Cathey, Carolyne

(To be continued)


Previous Posts: Healing Guilt, Shame and Regret

Healing Guilt, Shame and Regret, Part 1

Part 2: Important Differences

Part 3: Me Worthy? But my mistakes!

Part 4: Permission to Feel

Part 5: How do I forgive when I’m still hurt and angry?

Part 6: When you don’t forgive, who is hurt?