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What Are You Experiencing/Feeling During Sequester? Need help?

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Being sequestered with spouses and children can be both wonderful and frightening,, depending on those around you. Are they loving? Controlling? Do you feel safe? Endangered?

You can sometimes feel frustration and stress even in loving situations. You also have the opportunity to discover each other in new and wondrous ways. You might reprioritize your life, realizing how out of skew your life has become. Pausing the ever-busyness helps us to really see us as we’ve been and decide if there are important, life-quality changes we choose to make. Sometimes we get trapped into spending our precious life moments on areas that aren’t as important as parts of lives we’re ignoring, or putting aside until later. Be honest with how you feel. Has this sequester time been eye-opening for you?

NOT ALL HOMES ARE LOVING. If your spouse or child is sociopathic, being trapped in your home can be hell. You might merely be in survival mode, trying to appease, trying to avoid the next outburst. I hope you also take this time to really look at your situation and how to change your life so that your precious moments are what are best for you. This is YOUR life. Live it! The sociopath is skilled at control, making you feel worthless, impotent.

The sociopath’s accusations for pulling you down are lies. You are God-worthy! God created you! God creates all that is good, and that includes you. Anything else is a lie.

SUGGESTIONS:

SEEK HELP! Don’t be an enabler. Doing nothing in a dangerous situation means you are part of the problem. Making a change in your life, breaking the imprisoning chains, takes courage. I realize there might be great danger in your decision. Don’t do it alone. There is help for you.

Most important to realize is that you are not and are never alone. Your Inner Divine Power is within you always. This Inner Power is greater than your situation or danger. Your Inner Power will guide you, but you must ask. Listen. Follow. Learning to trust that Inner Guidance takes a strong faith. You have that faith, but fear might be overpowering your faith. Trust in your Divine Spiritual Team that is willing and eager to help you through your situation. They are your God-appointed Spiritual Partners in life. Work with them!

Take your life back! Pray. Seek help.

You can do this. With help and guidance, you can take your life back and live the life you are meant to live, not in fear, but in faith.

I am here for you, and remember…

God blesses you now and always.

Truth

 

Living the Golden Rule, Part 2 ~ Which quality do you choose to live?

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What does it mean to live the Golden Rule? How might it make a difference in your life? Part 2 is about becoming what you say what you want to receive.

 

In Part 1, the question you were to ask yourself is how you want to be treated by others.

Did you come up with a dream list?

As an example of options, do you want love? Respect? Understanding? Compassion? Patience? Friends? Fun times?

Unless you want to share YOUR list as a comment, I’ll go with the ones above as to the next steps.

The Golden Rule states that first you must treat others as you want to be treated. You’ve probably also heard of the Law of Attraction. What both are saying is that you first send out what you want to receive in return.

Do you want more love in your life? Then you must first be more loving.

The same with respect, understanding, compassion, patience and friendship.

First be the quality you want reflected back to you. Respect others differing viewpoints. Be understanding of other’s situations. Compassion means caring for others and their struggles. Patience means not to get triggered by what people say, or road rage, or standing in line, or your children, or spouse… You want more friends? Then be a friend.

The challenge is becoming what we want to receive.

Where do we start? Inside our own hearts and minds. For everything, we always start within.

But more than that, we reconnect with the Divine within us. We are never meant to do anything without our spiritual team. Anything other than true surrender is believing in the lie of separation, which is impossible. Surrender is coming home. Ask God to help you become what you want to receive even when it seems impossible. Nothing is impossible with God.

For this post I challenge you to take at least one quality you choose to receive – for example, love. With Divine help, become the love you wish to receive. In reality love is what you are, how you were created. During your day/s, consider how to respond with love in all situations and at all times.

How to do this might be difficult and confusing, especially when other’s are not loving, or even abusive! Love doesn’t mean being a doormat. Love sometimes means saying no. You come first. What do you want?

For now, choose one quality, then practice being that. Let me know how you are doing. I’d love going through this with you.

Next week we’ll discuss more about how to be love, or tolerance, or patient, when we are surrounded with the opposite, like in politics.

The Golden Rule, Part 1

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Powerful Life-Changing Beatitudes -#8: Blessed are those who are persecuted…

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The Beatitudes reveal powerful meanings that are rarely understood. This deeper understanding can help you reclaim your inner power.

With permission of Carolyne Cathey, author, inspirational speaker and spiritual counselor. From her talk on “The Joy of the Beatitudes”. (Right sidebar audio player).

5:10-12   #8 “Blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness’ sake, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.  Blessed are you when men revile you and persecute you and utter all kinds of evil against you falsely on my account. Rejoice and be glad for your reward is great in heaven, for so men persecuted the prophets who were before you.”

This final one might be the most difficult. What does it mean for us?

Note in this last Beatitude where the wording shifts from blessed are those, to blessed are you, the only time this happens. It changes from Blessed are those who are persecuted – generic – to a very personal blessed are you when men revile you and persecute you. The reason is because this Beatitude isn’t referring to the internal work you go through that you celebrate in the previous Beatitudes. This is a head’s up that refers to a potential rejection of you by others when you follow your spiritual path of truth and love; Jesus wants you to be aware of that possibility and not be discouraged or turned off your path, but to stay strong in your faith.

In the last sentence, He said “Rejoice and be glad for your reward is great.” The word for glad means to leap exceedingly. It is the leaping-for-joy runner who overcomes all obstacles in their path and crosses the finish line in truth and integrity.

Why the warning?

The truth is frightening to many people when it is different from what they believe. When frightened, people often persecute those who believe differently, call them names, slander them, try to destroy their reputations, ridicule, express hatred, and even kill. When we embody love no matter what is coming at us from other’s fear-caused reactions, we are strengthened with God-confidence while serving the world in honesty and integrity. Is that not what we all choose no matter the chaos and negativity around us? To stand solid in the Divine Truth?

Again, this is not something we try to do on our own. That is believing in separation, not Oneness. We are empowered when we surrender to our Inner Authority that knows the truth, shares the truth. This is not something we earn. It is a gift. A gift from God.

So we might paraphrase…

Oh the godlike joy when we are persecuted for embodying God’s truth, because when we surrender, emptying ourselves of fear and misperceptions, we open ourselves to receiving Divine Truth which strengthens us to be that which we truly are – love. And when we do, we inspire others to also express God’s love. This is joy.


I pray that the core of Jesus’ teachings expressed in the Beatitudes, touches you in new, inspiring and powerful ways. We are to emblazon these truths on our hearts, and live them.

To summarize…

We celebrate when we:

  1. Surrender and place our trust in God.
  2. Realize that despite our mistakes, God loves us anyway.
  3. Are teachable and open to God’s truth.
  4. Are filled with God’s goodness through surrender.
  5. See others as God sees them.
  6. See with pure intentions through God’s lens of love.
  7. Make peace within our own hearts.
  8. Are empowered by God when we live the Divine truth, which is love.

The Beatitudes are, in reality, about surrender. The only way we can follow these powerful life-changing truths is to merge our desires with God’s so that they are one desire – God’s will.  Surrender is the answer to everything.

To share a quote that I received in a Divine message, Jesus said…

Once you get oneness, everything else falls in place.”

In closing, the distilled truth of the Beatitudes

We celebrate when we surrender everything we are to God that has all of the answers to all of our challenges, knowing that when we are emptied of self, we are filled with the Divine.


I hope you’ve enjoyed the series on The Beatitudes as much as I’ve enjoyed sharing them. The previous seven blessings are linked below.

God bless you! Carolyne Cathey

Research Sources:

William Barclay’s Commentary on The Gospel of Matthew

The Hidden Gospel by Neil Douglas-Klotz

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Powerful Life-Changing Beatitudes – #4: Blessed are those who hunger…

Powerful Life-Changing Beatitudes – #5: Blessed are the merciful…

Powerful Life=Changing Beatitudes – #6: Blessed are the pure in heart..

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The Beatitudes reveal powerful meanings that are rarely understood. This deeper understanding can help you reclaim your inner power.

With permission of Carolyne Cathey, author, inspirational speaker and spiritual counselor. From her talk on “The Joy of the Beatitudes”. (Right sidebar audio player).

5:9 #7 Blessed are the peace-makers, for they shall be called sons of God.

In Hebrew peace is never only a negative state; it never means only the absence of trouble; in Hebrew peace always means everything that serves one’s highest good. But peace starts within us. So, we could say…

Oh the god-like joy when our own inner warfare is finally over and we make peace within our own heart and in our own soul. Then, along with the Source of Peace, we may serve as peacemakers to bless the world. This is joy!


Research Sources:

William Barclay’s Commentary on The Gospel of Matthew

The Hidden Gospel by Neil Douglas-Klotz

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Powerful Life-Changing Beatitudes -#6: Blessed are the pure in heart…

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The Beatitudes reveal powerful meanings that are rarely understood. This deeper understanding can help you reclaim your inner power.

With permission of Carolyne Cathey, author, inspirational speaker and spiritual counselor. From her talk on “The Joy of the Beatitudes”. (Right sidebar audio player).

5:8 #6 Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God.

The Greek word for pure means unmixed, unadulterated, unalloyed. It requires self-examination. Is our work done from motives of service or from motives of pay or acknowledgment, from being self-less, or from self-display, from a feeling of unity, or of superiority?  This is about intent, and perceptions.

It is difficult to see a purity beyond our own flawed perceptions, because we see everything through that flawed lens. The purer our sight, the purer the lens through which we view everything, the more purity we recognize. Total pureness recognizes total pureness. The only way we can see with such clarity is when we surrender all we are to the Divine and see ourselves and others as God sees us, which is through the lens of love.

So, then, this sixth beatitude might read:

Oh the godlike joy of choosing from pure intentions because when we do, through surrender, we see everything as God sees, which is always through the lens of love. That is joy!


Research Sources:

William Barclay’s Commentary on The Gospel of Matthew

The Hidden Gospel by Neil Douglas-Klotz

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Powerful Life-Changing Beatitudes -#5: Blessed are the merciful…

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The Beatitudes reveal powerful meanings that are rarely understood. This deeper understanding can help you reclaim your inner power.

With permission of Carolyne Cathey, author, inspirational speaker and spiritual counselor. From her talk on “The Joy of the Beatitudes”. (Right sidebar audio player).

5:7 #5 Blessed are the merciful, for they shall obtain mercy.

There is more to this beatitude than the obvious. The Hebrew word for mercy is one of several untranslatable words where our English is insufficient. It means to see others as God sees them. When we do that, like God, not only do we not judge them, but also we respond with compassion and understanding. Even more, it is seeing ourselves in others, like a reflection. It is being that which we choose to receive. We can only see as God sees through surrender.

So the translation of the fifth beatitude might read:

O the god-like joy when we get right inside other people until we can see with their eyes, think with their thoughts, feel with their feelings, see them as God sees them, for when we do, our hearts open with love and compassion. To be able to see as God sees is only possible through surrender. In doing so, we, too, receive mercy. That is joy!


Research Sources:

William Barclay’s Commentary on The Gospel of Matthew

The Hidden Gospel by Neil Douglas-Klotz

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The Beatitudes reveal powerful meanings that are rarely understood. This deeper understanding can help you reclaim your inner power.

With permission of Carolyne Cathey, author, inspirational speaker and spiritual counselor. From her talk on “The Joy of the Beatitudes”. (Right sidebar audio player).

5:6 #4 Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they shall be satisfied.

The hunger which this beatitude describes is no genteel hunger. It is the hunger of the person who is starving for food, and the thirst of one who will die unless they drink.

There is one further point which only emerges in the Greek. It could have said I want some of the bread, but not the whole loaf. I want some of the water, but not the entire container. The wording Jesus used means I want the whole loaf of bread. I want the entire container of water. I want it all.

I really struggled for days with the research on this beatitude because whatever I found, Jesus told me through prayer was inadequate for what he really said. That it lacked the total truth and the power of this message. So finally after several days, and still being told I was missing something important, I was guided to do an automatic writing exercise where I pray, ask the question, and then write whatever comes through to me.

This is what I received:

Write what I tell you. Write of love. Write of longing for a right relationship with God. A loving relationship. A powerful relationship. That the only way we can be right with God is to surrender to God’s will, and allow God to direct our relationship. A right relationship with God is not from us directing the way, but God doing the Divine will through us, empowering us, empowering others. That is a right relationship with God.

I asked if there is anything else?  He said,

It’s our hearts. The longing in our hearts. We have to really want a right relationship with God, not to be afraid of it, but to embrace it. Not a tepid desire, but an all or nothing quest, knowing that this is where lies our bliss and we won’t’ settle for anything less than the highest and best. He said talk about the Truth. The burning Truth. The purifying truth. A truth that challenges us to dare to live as God would have us live. How much, how badly do we want a right relationship with God? A loving relationship? A powerful relationship? An all-time 24/7 relationship, not just when we don’t have anything better to do. All or nothing.

What I finally realized:

It’s not that we must have goodness so that we can connect with God, it’s that we connect with God so that we can have goodness. God is our source for goodness. If we want all from God, then we must first surrender and give our all to God.

Wow. That really is a challenge. Like Jesus shared during the prayer message, there is only one way we can accomplish this directive, and it is with…

Surrender, for only through surrender do we have the total access to and fulfillment of goodness and right relationship with God for which we hunger. Do you sense the surrender pattern Jesus is teaching us in the first half of the beatitudes? When you really think about it, Surrender is the answer to everything. Surrender is the answer.

So…

O the godlike joy when we hunger and thirst for a right relationship with God as the highest priority in our lives because we want all that God offers. In our heart-longing desperation we surrender everything we are and do to the Divine, allowing the loving, purifying and powerful goodness to so fill us to overflowing that we can’t but live and share that goodness all of the time – God’s will flowing through us. Through surrender we are satisfied. This is joy


Research Sources:

William Barclay’s Commentary on The Gospel of Matthew

The Hidden Gospel by Neil Douglas-Klotz

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The Beatitudes reveal powerful meanings that are rarely understood. This deeper understanding can help you reclaim your inner power.

With permission of Carolyne Cathey, author, inspirational speaker and spiritual counselor. From her talk on “The Joy of the Beatitudes”. (Right sidebar audio player).

 5:5 #3 Blessed are the meek, for they shall inherit the earth.

Meek doesn’t mean weak, wimpy, shyly cowering in silence. In Aramaic, the word translated as “meek” means literally those who have softened what is rigid inside. That means when we are rigid about our thinking we are not open to any other viewpoint, even God’s. In our rigidity, we block ourselves from receiving and experiencing the Real Truth, the Eternal Truth. When we soften inside, we become teachable.

Restated:

Oh the god-like joy when we soften what is rigid inside and become teachable by the Divine, opening to and accepting the Eternal Truth, freeing us to experience the highest and best physical life possible while on planet earth. This is joy.

Research Sources:

William Barclay’s Commentary on The Gospel of Matthew

The Hidden Gospel by Neil Douglas-Klotz

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The Beatitudes reveal powerful meanings that are rarely understood. This deeper understanding can change your life whether you are living with or know a narcissistic sociopath, or are one. Read below to see why.

With permission of Carolyne Cathey, author, inspirational speaker and spiritual counselor. From her talk on “The Joy of the Beatitudes”. (Right sidebar audio player).

5:4 #2 Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.

The specific Greek word for ‘to mourn’ used originally, is the strongest word for mourning in the Greek language. It is the word which is used for mourning for the dead, for the passionate lament for one who was loved.

For what do we mourn as if it were a type of death? When we are spiritually destitute and finally surrender all to our Source, we realize what a mess we’ve made of our lives. We mourn for our regrets, our mistakes, things we said or did wrong, perhaps hurting ourselves, or others. Words and actions we wish we could retract but we can’t, regrets that tear us up inside. We mourn that, in our ignorance, we blunder our way through life, too often missing out on what might have been our bliss if we’d seen or understood more clearly. It is when we look back on our lives at the moment of death and regret what we didn’t have the courage to go for and that it is now too late.

So, paraphrased:

Oh the God-like joy when we finally admit and mourn for our mistakes, for the shambles we made of our lives, because we are comforted by the realization that, mistakes and all, we are loved by God anyway, unconditionally, without judgment, which is precisely how we are to love ourselves, and others. There is no greater comfort than this. To be loved anyway. This is joy.

Research Sources:

William Barclay’s Commentary on The Gospel of Matthew

The Hidden Gospel by Neil Douglas-Klotz

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The Beatitudes reveal powerful meanings that are rarely understood. This deeper understanding can change your life whether you are living with or know a narcissistic sociopath, or are one. Read below to see why.

With permission of Carolyne Cathey, author, inspirational speaker and spiritual counselor. From her talk on “The Joy of the Beatitudes”.

The 8 Beatitudes, or blessings, or the be-attitudes, are the core of the core teachings Jesus came here to share.

What we often don’t realize is the power within the statements. To many of us they have become meaningless. So often when we read through the Beatitudes we skim over them without any realization of the power and depth of their meaning. For one, our lifestyle is so very different, and for another, many of the words either had no accurate translation in the English language, or often the meanings don’t make sense any more, or they come across ho-hum, or they’ve actually come to mean the opposite of the original language.

First, the phrase “blessed are,” when the original Greek word is translated accurately, it means “Oh, the godlike joy of…” The reason that is important is because they are not just wishes of what might be; they are not hopes for future blessings; they are celebrations of what exists right now, at this moment. They are exultant shouts of joy for the Divine blessings that nothing in this physical world can ever take away from us.

5:3 #1 Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.

Poor in spirit, (not financially, but in spirit). The original meaning for poor spoken at the time describes absolute and abject poverty. it describes the poverty which is beaten to its knees, someone who is absolutely destitute.  Why is that something to celebrate? Because it celebrates the person who is so spiritually destitute they realize their own utter lack of resources to meet life, and with nowhere else to turn, put their whole trust in God.  It means surrender, the most significant choice we make. Surrender isn’t only about giving, it is mainly about receiving. We are to empty ourselves in surrender so that total love and Truth and guidance can flood into us and fill us to overflowing without restriction. That is when we truly celebrate the fullness of life that is ours to experience from that inner kingdom of heaven that is within us. Not from anything outside of us, but Inside of us always. That is freedom. That is true joy. To personalize this proclamation of triumph.

Oh, the godlike joy when we feel so spiritually destitute that we finally surrender our lives to God, putting all of our trust in our indwelling Unlimited Supplier, not a human.  This is joy!

Research Sources:

William Barclay’s Commentary on The Gospel of Matthew

The Hidden Gospel by Neil Douglas-Klotz

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