First love yourself
Being sequestered with spouses and children can be both wonderful and frightening,, depending on those around you. Are they loving? Controlling? Do you feel safe? Endangered?
You can sometimes feel frustration and stress even in loving situations. You also have the opportunity to discover each other in new and wondrous ways. You might reprioritize your life, realizing how out of skew your life has become. Pausing the ever-busyness helps us to really see us as we’ve been and decide if there are important, life-quality changes we choose to make. Sometimes we get trapped into spending our precious life moments on areas that aren’t as important as parts of lives we’re ignoring, or putting aside until later. Be honest with how you feel. Has this sequester time been eye-opening for you?
NOT ALL HOMES ARE LOVING. If your spouse or child is sociopathic, being trapped in your home can be hell. You might merely be in survival mode, trying to appease, trying to avoid the next outburst. I hope you also take this time to really look at your situation and how to change your life so that your precious moments are what are best for you. This is YOUR life. Live it! The sociopath is skilled at control, making you feel worthless, impotent.
The sociopath’s accusations for pulling you down are lies. You are God-worthy! God created you! God creates all that is good, and that includes you. Anything else is a lie.
SEEK HELP! Don’t be an enabler. Doing nothing in a dangerous situation means you are part of the problem. Making a change in your life, breaking the imprisoning chains, takes courage. I realize there might be great danger in your decision. Don’t do it alone. There is help for you.
Most important to realize is that you are not and are never alone. Your Inner Divine Power is within you always. This Inner Power is greater than your situation or danger. Your Inner Power will guide you, but you must ask. Listen. Follow. Learning to trust that Inner Guidance takes a strong faith. You have that faith, but fear might be overpowering your faith. Trust in your Divine Spiritual Team that is willing and eager to help you through your situation. They are your God-appointed Spiritual Partners in life. Work with them!
Take your life back! Pray. Seek help.
You can do this. With help and guidance, you can take your life back and live the life you are meant to live, not in fear, but in faith.
I am here for you, and remember…
God blesses you now and always.
The following post is a Divine Message of an inspirational example from Carolyne Cathey of how first sending out what you want to receive actually works. Carolyne receives messages from her mentor, Jesus, about everyday life situations, and how, by following the suggestions, they can transform our lives into something special.
What does it mean to live the Golden Rule? How might it make a difference in your life?
Part 1, the question you were to ask yourself is how you want to be treated by others.
Part 2, Which quality do you choose to live?
Part 3, Divine Message, Why the Golden Rule Works
Receiving and Giving are One Cord
HAVE YOU HEARD the saying that it is easier to give than receive? That saying described me. For some reason I loved giving but I had a hard time receiving. People would offer to give to me in return but I would decline. I would notice the hurt in their eyes, which made me feel guilty, and yet I felt guilty in accepting.
I wondered why it seems easier to give than receive? Pride? Ego? An “I don’t want to be a burden,” attitude? An “I can do it myself” attitude? I felt less somehow when a person would offer to help, like I was lacking something that someone else had to fill in because I was inadequate or flawed. As a result, I was unintentionally rude when I would turn down someone’s offer to help or to give me something. I didn’t mean to be rude. I meant not to be a burden or bother, or dependent. Or even more, that I didn’t need anyone’s help (can you hear the ego in that statement?) With my refusal I could see the disappointment in someone’s eyes or demeanor that showed I had rejected the generosity from their heart.
Jesus kept assuring me that giving and receiving are the same, but I couldn’t see it. To me, giving indicated strength, receiving revealed weakness.
One day, he flashed a vision into my mind that is best demonstrated by acting it out.
To act out the vision, stand up to demonstrate this truth.
Imagine a thick nylon cord or rope threading through your solar plexus, front to back and it slides both ways. Place one hand on the imaginary cord coming out the front of your waist, and one hand on the same imaginary cord threading through you out the back of your waist. When you pull so that the rope goes outward from you, as in giving, notice that it also comes into you from the back, as in receiving. With the invisible cord in your hands, let the cable slide back and forth and you’ll see that no matter which way the cord glides, when you are giving, you are also receiving.
“Everything you have is from the Divine. Everything. Including the love that fills you, love that is so freely given to you from your Creator. Everything you receive you first receive from the Divine. When others are giving to you, you are receiving what flowed through them from the Divine. So, whether giving or receiving, it is all from your Source, your Unlimited Supplier.
“This image demonstrates that receiving and giving are the same. Your problem is that you allow ego and pride to get in your way, that when you decline a generous offer, you not only hurt the other person, you also hurt yourself. When you refuse to receive, you are blocking the natural flow. You are trying to separate the inseparable.
“Notice that when you slide the cord back and forth, that the giving comes from inside you at the same time that the receiving slips inside you, so you cannot possibly give without also giving to yourself.
“You can name the cord. If you name the cord ‘hate’, then when you give hate, that is what you receive. If you name the cord ‘love’, then when you give love, you receive love in return. Which means that if you want to receive love, then you must give love—in remembrance that you are giving from the love you’ve already received. You are created from love. You are love. Give what you truly are—love.”
Now the vision shifts: Jesus said…
“Imagine that the cord that runs through you also runs through a person in front of you and a person behind you, and the people on the other side of each of them. See the connection?” he said. “For someone to give there must be someone else to receive that gift, and of course, the reverse is true. For someone else to give, then another must receive.
“As with the cord, receiving isn’t always from the same person to whom you give. You will often receive back from unexpected sources.
“Also notice that when you give there is no lack because as you are giving, what you receive slips in continuously, allowing continual giving. That is the natural flow. The natural flow of giving and receiving is always going on —there is no life without it.”
Meaning: This message applies to all of creation—people, animals and the planet. Again, you might ‘receive’ from varying forms. Animals love in return, just like people, and sometimes better than people. Contributing in your own loving way fosters a more loving, healthy community, which benefits you and everyone.
Today, practice giving and receiving love with a smile and with gratitude.
“Everything you have is from the Divine. Everything. Including the love that fills you, love that is so freely given to you from your Creator. Everything you receive you first receive from the Divine. When others are giving to you, you are receiving what flowed through them from the Divine. So, whether giving or receiving, it is all from your Source, your Unlimited Supplier.” ~ Jesus. Divine Messages from Jesus. p. 365. 2015. Cathey, Carolyne.
Next week: The Golden Rule, Part 4: Being Love
Photo Credit: alphabetsalad.com
What does it mean to live the Golden Rule? How might it make a difference in your life? Part 2 is about becoming what you say what you want to receive.
In Part 1, the question you were to ask yourself is how you want to be treated by others.
Did you come up with a dream list?
As an example of options, do you want love? Respect? Understanding? Compassion? Patience? Friends? Fun times?
Unless you want to share YOUR list as a comment, I’ll go with the ones above as to the next steps.
The Golden Rule states that first you must treat others as you want to be treated. You’ve probably also heard of the Law of Attraction. What both are saying is that you first send out what you want to receive in return.
Do you want more love in your life? Then you must first be more loving.
The same with respect, understanding, compassion, patience and friendship.
First be the quality you want reflected back to you. Respect others differing viewpoints. Be understanding of other’s situations. Compassion means caring for others and their struggles. Patience means not to get triggered by what people say, or road rage, or standing in line, or your children, or spouse… You want more friends? Then be a friend.
The challenge is becoming what we want to receive.
Where do we start? Inside our own hearts and minds. For everything, we always start within.
But more than that, we reconnect with the Divine within us. We are never meant to do anything without our spiritual team. Anything other than true surrender is believing in the lie of separation, which is impossible. Surrender is coming home. Ask God to help you become what you want to receive even when it seems impossible. Nothing is impossible with God.
For this post I challenge you to take at least one quality you choose to receive – for example, love. With Divine help, become the love you wish to receive. In reality love is what you are, how you were created. During your day/s, consider how to respond with love in all situations and at all times.
How to do this might be difficult and confusing, especially when other’s are not loving, or even abusive! Love doesn’t mean being a doormat. Love sometimes means saying no. You come first. What do you want?
For now, choose one quality, then practice being that. Let me know how you are doing. I’d love going through this with you.
Next week we’ll discuss more about how to be love, or tolerance, or patient, when we are surrounded with the opposite, like in politics.
Photo Credit: alphabetsalad.com