Healing Guilt, Shame and Regret, Part 2 – Important Differences

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Healing Guilt, Shame and Regret, Part 1


It’s important for your healing to understand the difference between guilt, shame and regret.


Because unless you understand the cause of these emotions and actually ‘feel’ them rather than trying to ‘forget’ them (which never works), the aftereffects can be wounding, negatively impacting everything in your life from your relationships to your career. They certainly affect your happiness, or lack of, and trigger you to continue making unhealthy choices – ensnaring you in a trap of your own making as mentioned in Part 1.

Guilt arises from doing something you knew wasn’t right at the time, but hoped you could get away with and not get caught. The incident could be legal, moral or ethical in nature. Some people are sorry they were caught but not remorseful. Some people can be affected so negatively by their guilt that they go into depression, even contemplate suicide. They wrongly believe they can’t ever forgive themselves over their mistakes, that they are unworthy of love, of respect, of goodness, of life. Unworthiness results in a repetitive cycle of self-punishing choices – an “I don’t deserve anything good’ attitude. Don’t believe it! There is hope for you. There is help. Stay with me on this. What do you lose by giving yourself a chance? Nothing. But you have everything to gain.

Regret is generated from within, a negative self-recrimination from committing some type of wrong, either intentional or accidental. Regret can stem from action or inaction, like when we could have made a better choice than the one we made. Or we could have done something or said something that would have helped, but we didn’t, and is now too late. Regret aches painfully inside us because we can’t go back and fix the damage. It hurts. And keeps hurting, for years if we let it. Regret can also result in feelings of unworthiness. The good news is that regret can also inspire a determination to do better next time, turning a negative into a positive. How do you accomplish that turnaround? Keep reading, and don’t give up.

Shame is usually the emotion that causes the most severe negative self-esteem. Shame is generated from outside influences like society, family and peers who tell us we should feel badly about ‘something’. They try to debase us through humiliation, rejection or criticism because they believe we failed them and aren’t good enough, won’t ever be good enough. Bullying falls under this category. A ‘charming sociopath’ uses this technique to manipulate and control, doing their best to destroy our self-esteem and self-worth. The good news in this category is that they succeed in mistreating us only if we let them. Don’t allow anyone to disrespect you. Yes, such a stance requires courage and faith. But you can do it. During this series we’ll work on strengthening your confidence and belief in yourself. Choose empowerment.

In the next several posts we’ll address healing solutions. Solutions that can turn your life from negative into positive, from sadness into joy, from feeling impotent to powerful, from false unworthiness into a true, amazing worthiness beyond anything you’ve ever imagined. Stay with this series. You can do it!

(To be continued)

Healing Guilt, Shame and Regret, Part 3.

Healing Guilt, Shame and Regret, Part 1.

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Have you, at least once in your life, felt guilt, shame and regret? Does it make you feel unworthy? Do your false beliefs of unworthiness lead you to repeatedly choose unhealthy relationships and situations?

You are not alone. Everyone makes poor choices. Everyone makes mistakes. Everyone feels guilt, shame and regret.

For some people, though, the feeling of unworthiness and false beliefs that they don’t deserve the best in life is a trap they’ve sadly built and set for themselves. A trap they keep stepping into. And, when they get caught in it, escape seems almost impossible. Not true! That self-accepted belief is a damaging lie they declare to themselves, with great harm to themselves and those around them.

Are you one of those people? Don’t you hate it? Do you want a way out?

Escape is possible. Would you like to know how to flip the negatives into positives? Would you like to turn around your damaging beliefs about yourself and move toward healing?

Let’s work together on your healing. Over the next several posts we’ll discuss how to escape the trap you’ve set for yourself, and how to choose a better way – a healing way. (To be continued)

Charming Sociopaths. You either are one, or know one. Get help!

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One in 20 people suffer with a charming sociopath personality. You might be one of them. You might live with one. They might be your sibling or parent, or child or friend, or neighbor, or boss. You might be confused as to their behavior, or don’t understand what is going on. If so…



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NOTE: If any of you are experiencing an inner urging for a better way of life – a life of love and joy – remember, all is possible with God. The only way change will come, though, is if you choose to change. Once you do, you’ll be amazed at the path you travel.  Please read Jess’ update below.

Jess said:
November 16, 2017 at 9:41 pm

Just to kind of update everyone, including Truth. I have managed to turn my life around 180 degrees, have a 2 year old, and have another on the way, I’m married and i couldn’t be happier, I have not reverted back to what i once was, and i no longer have that fear, it is my past and that is where I intend to leave it. Change can happen, but it begins with in. Truth helped me see things deep in my self and i was able to figure it all out. Thank you Truth!


Comment from Truth is below: Jess is a living example that change is possible – all is possible with God.
truthlover5 responded:
November 16, 2017 at 10:14 pm

Oh, Jess, you bring joy into my heart. I’m so proud of you! Your seeking, your courage in opening to the unknown of change, your curiosity and questions and honesty of how you felt, or didn’t feel, and your determination in not giving up and in wanting a better life, along with the power of Divine help, guided you to this blessed life you are now experiencing. Your wise choices led to wise results. I’m more honored to be part of your shift than I can fully express. You are proof that change is possible – with God all is possible. You are a living example of what other’s can achieve if they have the courage to go after it.

Always remember what you said in your post, “it begins within”.

I’m so happy for you and for your wife and children. God’s blessings on you all.