Grandiose sense of self

Reality? Or Mirage?

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The following post is helpful for inspiring courage in knowing that just because you can’t see something, doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. Where is your happiness? From the inside, or the outside? And why?  Hope you enjoy the excerpt From the book Divine Messages from Jesus for a magnificent life p.  2015. 381-387. Cathey, Carolyne. 

Truth.


Carolyne Cathey writes…

SPIRITUAL ONENESS IS challenging to prove because of the supposed unseen aspect of it. Our tendency is, out of fear, or ego, or misunderstanding, to reach toward the visible, the tangible, which means something you can touch. That, in itself is a clue. Whatever you can touch is only temporary. Your true happiness lies with the intangible, the unseen.

I asked Jesus for an understanding of the tangible versus the intangible. He said:

“Trust in the True Reality that is Unseen and yet is revealed in so many ways—love, joy, beauty, harmony, a smile, compassion, acts of kindness—the qualities in life that matter.”

The following Divine message flashed into my mind in it’s entirety, which is always the way they appear to me, the entire message at once.

Vision:

Wayfarer, a traveler in search of happiness, acceptance, popularity and with a baffling emptiness he longs to fill, stands in front of an invisible ‘something’ that seems like a vast warehouse as large as the Universe. He feels an energy, a power, a silent calling or urging. He senses a luxuriant abundance, all that he could ever dream of, but what bothers him is that he can’t see it or touch it.

A quiet voice that is surely his imagination whispers that what he senses is the Reality, the Eternal Truth, the Creator that is Love—the love from which he was created, the Source of peace, joy and fulfillment. He’s told he is one with that Source, and that all of that bounty is freely and abundantly available to him. Even more bizarre, he’s told that the doorway to all that magnificence is from within him, which makes no sense at all. How could he believe in or trust in something he can’t see or touch? How could something so vast be within him? He decides that weird, crazy thoughts are playing with his mind.

Believing there is nothing for him there, he rejects what is surely insanity and turns toward a barren cracked desert that stretches out in front of him. There isn’t much to view in the dry expanse, but at least it’s something tangible, something he can understand. Shriveled plants struggle to survive in the arid wasteland, pale and wilted because there is no nourishment, but he can see them, and touch them, and prove they exist.

As he scans the desert, he sees a shimmering image in the distance, like a mirage. Squinting to better see, his excitement leaps as he notices people within the wavering vision. They are laughing, having fun and dancing, buying lots of ‘things’ and are busy, busy, busy, which means they must be important people—and popular.

Finally! That is what he is looking for. Wayfarer is hungry for fulfillment, for being liked, for being appreciated and famous. He feels an indescribable emptiness inside that he is desperate to fill. The answer to all of that is right in front of him.

Struggling across the cracked earth, he enters into the mirage. People surround him, rushing around madly. In talking with them he discovers they gain happiness by filling up their homes and lives with ‘things’ and activities—large screen TV’s, the latest technology, extravagant homes and cars, drugs and parties and an excess of outside stimulation and adulation.

Wayfarer is glad he didn’t give into the insanity of going within for happiness. He’s embarrassed he was even tempted. Obviously, its what is outside of him that counts. The society around him proves it.

He learns that these busy, popular, important people aren’t interested in the spiritual exploration because, like Wayfarer, they’re not even sure it exists—they can’t see it, or touch it, and they don’t trust in anything they can’t prove. Wayfarer relates because that is how he feels. He is finally with like-minded people who won’t ridicule him and make him look and feel foolish for trying to understand the impossible.

Everyone looks pleased with all of their ‘stuff’ as if they are having fun, like a game, where the one with the greatest and newest is the most adulated. They obviously believe all of that ‘stuff’ and activity will fulfill them because they are working so hard to get it, and they must be correct or they wouldn’t be so elated.

Wayfarer thinks that if he had what they have, then he would be happy, too. He finds a place to live and starts buying and amassing things. Oddly, he notices he’s not any happier, and maybe even less so, but perhaps he’s not doing it right and hasn’t given the effort enough time. So he buys more and bigger and better and newer and takes feel-good drugs as do his new friends with whom he’s hanging out and who make him feel accepted. He works even harder to fit in and be popular. Some of the things people say and do don’t seem quite right to him, but to be liked, he goes along and pretends he fits in by mimicking what they say and do.

He hides that he’s puzzled as to why he still isn’t happy on the inside. He wonders why everyone else is so apparently gratified and he isn’t? What is he doing wrong? Despite all he has bought and done and taken and the friends he has around him, he is still hungry for something indefinable. He feels unfulfilled, still seeking, still wondering what else he can buy or do to fill that emptiness.

Maybe he didn’t pick the right ‘things’, or wasn’t with the right people, or the right job, or he might take even more exotic drugs because they entice with momentary pleasure even though the drugs then betray him with making him want more, and more. He keeps grasping—for what he’s not sure.

Where is the magic answer? Of course, some of the material goods are vital for his survival and enjoyment of the physical. He’s beginning to suspect that they are only for living in comfort, not for satisfaction.

As time goes on, he notices incongruities. People on drugs don’t appear as happy as they once did, some even look ill. Lives falling apart. Desperate. Hanging out in dirty alleys. Dying too young. The people rushing around the streets have a strained look in their eyes, as if all is not as it appears. Their smiles don’t reach their eyes anymore. They almost seem a little confused, like Wayfarer does, and that if they just try harder, or keep pretending and keep everyone fooled until it actually happens—the ‘fake it until you make it’ mentality, then . . . .

Disillusioned, he acknowledges that the things outside of him aren’t satisfying him on the inside at all. A traitorous thought leaps into his mind—

Inside? As in going within? Is it possible that the ‘outside’ can never satisfy the ‘inside’?

The thought frightens him. Maybe he really is crazy.

He hears that disturbing voice again that his true happiness is inside him, that he is created from the One Source, within God, within the Unlimited Supplier, the Power of the Universe.

The quiet inner voice insists that the True Riches are piled high for his enjoyment, his for the taking, and that to access them he only has to go within and surrender. What nonsense! What a fearful concept! Surrender? But that means he loses control.

And yet, he learned that his soul still feels a thirst that nothing outside of him quenches. Like a mirage, what he’s been striving for are apparently only illusory promises that vanish when he gets close to his goal, and always just out of reach.

He is at a point of decision. Should he risk everything and trust in the unseen that is said to be the Reality? Or keep searching for things and stuff that he can see and touch and yet disappointingly reveal themselves as illusions?

Wayfarer has a choice. He’s told that all he has to do is go within to his Source, to his Unlimited Supplier, to the abundance of the Universe, and say ‘help me’. To go within and say ‘yes’. To surrender all that is illusion for the truth of who he truly is—one with and within the Divine.

The voice promises that within, in connection with the Divine, is where his true happiness lies, his only fulfillment. He acknowledges his other attempts at happiness failed.

Which will Wayfarer choose? Reality? Or Mirage?

Which have you chosen for you?

Meaning: The tangible is temporary, the mirage. The intangible is lasting, the Reality. You’re provided free will. You have a choice, the most important choice you will ever make.

Yes, life is to be enjoyed. A life of abundance. What is crucial for you to know is that your true happiness comes from within you, not from anything outside of you.

Once you get the ‘inside’ part and surrender, then you’re allowing the Divine to guide you with the ‘outside’, too, making life more wonderful than you ever imagined.


“You are to repeat and repeat until all know without doubt, you are one with the Source, and the Source is your Unlimited Supplier, not a human.”

Which means you are to turn to the Source for all things, and,

“Once you ‘get Oneness’, everything else falls in place.” ~  Jesus, / Divine Messages from Jesus for a magnificent life. p. 387. 2015. Cathey, Carolyne.




Charming Sociopaths. You either are one, or know one. Get help!

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One in 20 people suffer with a charming sociopath personality. You might be one of them. You might live with one. They might be your sibling or parent, or child or friend, or neighbor, or boss. You might be confused as to their behavior, or don’t understand what is going on. If so…

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Profile of a Narcissistic Sociopath – Charming, Manipulative, Grandiose, Lying, Authoritarian, Secretive, Divisive…

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Profile of the Narcissistic Sociopath

Think you can spot a sociopath/psychopath? Think again.

According to experts, this behavior affects 3% to 5% of the population, which could mean more than 15 million people in the USA with these characteristics, or up to 1 in 20 people – higher percentages than one might realize. The people affected are millions more. Are you one of them?

Sociopath-imageIn general, psychopaths come from all walks of life. They’re our friends, lovers, co-workers and leaders. They’re outgoing and persuasive, dazzling you with charm and flattery.  Knowing the profile characteristics might help you to avoid being scammed or hurt by someone you trust. Or, you might already be in a situation and are confused by the others behavior.  Be aware of the characteristics.  Be smart.

What is a narcissistic sociopath?
  • A narcissistic sociopath is someone with a combination of narcissistic personality disorder and definitive behavioral signs of sociopathy.
  • People with narcissism are characterized by their excessive and persistent need for others’ admiration and positive reinforcement. They generally have grandiose opinions of themselves and believe they are superior to other people. Narcissists are also frequently convinced that they are above the normal responsibilities and obligations of everyday life, so they usually have significant difficulties maintaining employment or relationships as a result.
  • The narcissistic sociopath has this type of personality along with a noticeable lack of regard for the rights of others and a tendency to regularly violate those rights.

One noted difference between a narcissistic sociopath and people with narcissism alone is that:

  • The narcissist with the sociopathy reacts strongly and sometimes even violently to negative feedback. True sociopaths generally do not respond to criticism or care what others may think of them.
  • A narcissistic sociopath is unable to tolerate criticism and needs constant praise, as well as deference from other people. Many with this condition present themselves in the best light possible and are able to easily charm others to gain their trust.

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THE MALIGNANT PERSONALITY:  These people are mentally ill and extremely dangerous! The following precautions will help to protect you from the destructive acts of which they are capable.  To recognize them, keep the following guidelines in mind:

(1) They are habitual liars. They seem incapable of either knowing or telling the truth about anything.

(2) They are egotistical to the point of narcissism. They really believe they are set apart from the rest of humanity by some special grace.

(3) They scapegoat; they are incapable of either having the insight or willingness to accept responsibility for anything they do. Whatever the problem, it is always someone else’s fault.

(4) They are remorselessly vindictive when thwarted or exposed.

(5) Genuine religious, moral, or other values play no part in their lives. They have no empathy for others and are capable of violence. Under older psychological terminology, they fall into the category of psychopath or sociopath, but unlike the typical psychopath, their behavior is masked by a superficial social facade.

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Profile of the Sociopath

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  • Glibness and Superficial Charm
  • Manipulative and Cunning
    They never recognize the rights of others and see their self-serving behaviors as permissible. They appear to be charming, yet are covertly hostile and domineering, seeing their victim as merely an instrument to be used. They may dominate and humiliate their victims.
  • Grandiose Sense of Self
    Feels entitled to certain things as “their right.”
  • May state readily that their goal is to rule the world
  • Pathological Lying
    Has no problem lying coolly and easily and it is almost impossible for them to be truthful on a consistent basis. Can create, and get caught up in, a complex belief about their own powers and abilities. Extremely convincing and even able to pass lie detector tests.
  • Not concerned about wrecking others’ lives and dreams. Oblivious or indifferent to the devastation they cause. Does not accept blame themselves, but blames others, even for acts they obviously committed.
  • A Sociopath is always “pitting” people against each other. My Sociopath
  • Smear Campaign:  A Sociopath will always be smearing someone and inciting people against each other.  Sociopaths do not want people to like or get along with each other and will try to “divide and conquer.”  They will say odd things to people in the social group: “She doesn’t like you” or “She doesn’t want me doing anything with you.” My Sociopath
  • Sociopath has a strange network of Support People ranging from “consultants,” to skilled-workers, to enabling co-dependents that back him up when he wants to go after his Target. Most of the Support People have their own Psychological problems. My Sociopath. 
  • No conscience. Lack of Remorse, Shame or Guilt.
  • Believe they are all-powerful all-knowing, entitled to every wish, no sense of personal boundaries, no concern for their impact on others.
  • The end always justifies the means and they let nothing stand in their way.
  • Shallow Emotions When they show what seems to be warmth, joy, love and compassion it is more feigned than experienced and serves an ulterior motive. Outraged by insignificant matters, yet remaining unmoved and cold by what would upset a normal person. Since they are not genuine, neither are their promises.
  • Incapable of real human attachment to another
  • Does not perceive that anything is wrong with them
  • Authoritarian
  • Secretive
  • Paranoid
  • Drama King:  There is always conflict going on in a Sociopath’s life and it involves a “bad person,” “bad business” or “bad transaction.” My Sociopath. 
  • Callousness/Lack of Empathy

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Inside the Mind of a Sociopath: 

Excerpt from: “The Sociopath Next Door: The Ruthless vs. the Rest of Us” by Martha Stout Ph.D.

“Imagine – if you can – not having a conscience, none at all, no feelings of guilt or remorse no matter what you do, no limiting sense of concern of the well-being of strangers, friends, or even family members.  Imagine no struggles with shame, not a single one in your whole life, no matter what kind of selfish, lazy, harmful, or immoral action you had taken.  And pretend that the concept of responsibility is unknown to you, except as a burden others seem to accept without question, like gullible fools.  Now add to this strange fantasy the ability to conceal from other people that your psychological makeup is radically different from theirs.  Since everyone simply assumes that conscience is universal among human beings, hiding the fact that you are conscience-free is nearly effortless.  You are not held back from any of your desires by guilt or shame, and you are never confronted by others for your cold-bloodlessness.  The ice water in your veins is so bizarre, so completely outside of their personal experience that they seldom even guess at your condition.”

…or – maybe, best of all – (you) create situations that cause them to feel bad about themselves.  And this is power, especially when the people you manipulate are superior to you in some way.  Most invigorating of all is to bring down people who are smarter or more accomplished than you, or perhaps classier, more attractive or popular or morally admirable.  This is not only good fun; it is existential vengeance.  And without a conscience, it is amazingly easy to do.”

“Provided you are not forcibly stopped, you can do anything at all If you are born at the right time, with some access to family fortune, and you have a special talent for whipping up other people’s hatred and sense of deprivation, you can arrange to kill large numbers of unsuspecting people.  With enough money, you can accomplish this from far away, and you can sit back safely and watch in satisfaction.  In fact, terrorism (done from a distance) is the ideal occupation for a person who is possessed of blood lust and no conscience, because if you do it just right, you may be able to make a whole nation jump.  And if that is not power, what is?”

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Antisocial Personality Disorder Overview (Written by Derek Wood, RN, BSN, PhD Candidate)

There currently is no form of psychotherapy that works with those with antisocial personality disorder, as those with this disorder have no desire to change themselves, which is a prerequisite.

Over time, she says, “their appearance of perfection will begin to crack,” but by that time you will have been emotionally and perhaps financially scathed.

Taken in part from MW — By Caroline Konrad — September 1999